Where is my Mind? by Barry Lee

Where is my Mind?

by Barry Lee

Originally published in the Law Society gazette, May 2020

Barry Lee is founder of Mindfulness for Law and worked as a corporate and commercial lawyer for over ten years

At this moment in time, there is probably more interest in mindfulness than ever before, and it’s easy to understand why. There is a lot of anxiety in the world right now. Many of us are stretched thin: balancing demanding workloads with home-schooling, looking after elders, and worrying about what will happen in the weeks and months ahead. The machine has ground to a halt and, for many of us, this brings the added stress of financial uncertainty.

In spite of cocooning and self-isolating, we are still being bombarded with information. The fragile boundaries between ‘work’ and ‘home’ have dissolved.
Relationships come under pressure when we are living in such close proximity with only a few people all of the time. Our clients are feeling all of this too. Right now, for many of us, it’s hard.

In the midst of all this, it’s easy to lose ourselves in busyness and distraction.

Distraction is a known coping strategy and, occasionally, it can be helpful. However, often compulsive busyness and distraction only make us feel worse, especially if we are staring at our screens all day, mindlessly consuming information.

Sometimes, the wisest action – the most compassionate thing we can do for ourselves – is to pause. The practice of mindfulness gives us this chance to pause. We can only feel the solid ground under our feet when we stop rushing to the next moment.

Dazed and Confused

The first time I went to a meditation class in 2007, I had a mild panic attack in the reception area. My face felt hot. My breathing was shallow and rapid. I couldn’t get enough air. I was dizzy, and I felt like I was going to faint. I managed to conceal how I was feeling, and I think I managed to engage in some polite small talk with a few of the other people in the room.

In the six months prior to that day, I had become accustomed to having panic attacks. I knew that they could come on at any moment. I had been in meetings with clients when they struck. When it happens, it feels like you are observing the scene in front of you from behind a pane of glass. The sounds around you echo, and everything seems strange. You sit there trying to look calm, while your heart beats furiously and your mind races out of control. Eventually it passes and you move on, exhausted and embarrassed. After six months, I had become an expert at concealing my anxiety.

When I first had a panic attack, I was 25 and had just qualified as a solicitor. I thought I was having a heart attack and went straight to hospital. The doctors kept me in for a short while for observation
and sent me home, telling me that I was physically fine. I didn’t feel fine and took a week off work. I knew that something serious had happened to me, and I was convinced that the doctors had made a
mistake. I went for a cardiac ultrasound scan, and another doctor told me that he could find no physical abnormalities. He said that I might be suffering from stress and that the symptoms I experienced were
consistent with acute anxiety. Knowing that I was okay physically helped a bit at the start but, after a while, the initial relief wore off.

I tried to manage my anxiety in lots of different ways. I exercised. I was careful about the food I ate. I cut out coffee. I tried to get more sleep, which is very difficult when you are anxious. I soon discovered that alcohol was a temporary balm. If I had a few drinks with my friends, I relaxed, but the next day tended to be much worse. It’s easy for me to understand why many people turn to self-medicating with alcohol.

I had some good days, but the fear of another attack always hung over me. I was less inclined to go to social functions, which could trigger anxiety. I had trouble sleeping. I’m sure that the quality of my work suffered.

I didn’t tell anyone in work what I was going through. I didn’t tell my girlfriend. I was embarrassed, and I didn’t want my colleagues and the people close to me to look at me differently, as if I was more fragile than everyone else and unable to cope with the normal stresses of life.

Luckily, I did confide in a few close friends.
One of them told me about a colleague who used Buddhist meditation as a way of coping with anxiety. In hindsight, I’m very lucky that I had that particular conversation. Another friend could just as easily have suggested Valium (there is obviously a time and a place for medication, but it’s probably not the best way to deal with anxiety in the long run).

So there I was in my first meditation class. I had come straight from work, and was relieved when I wasn’t the only person wearing a suit. I remember praying that no one I knew would see me entering or leaving the building.

Thirteen years ago, meditation wasn’t nearly as popular as it is now. There wasn’t the same abundance of articles in the newspapers. ‘Mindfulness’ and ‘resilience’ weren’t the buzzwords they are
today. There was no talk of neuroscience or neuroplasticity. There were no mindfulness apps. Workplaces didn’t have a ‘wellness week’. There was definitely a stigma around mental health.

I was sceptical. Under normal circumstances, I would never have been
drawn to this sort of thing. If someone had suggested a meditation class to me a year before, I might have rolled my eyes – but when you are suffering, you tend to be a bit more receptive. The teacher was kind
and softly spoken. He explained a little bit about the concept, and we spent most of the evening practising some of the techniques. It takes a lifetime to master meditation, but something in the class resonated with me. I had the sense that this was something that could really help me. I left feeling a little bit lighter.

The teacher told us that, in order for us to benefit, we needed to practice regularly, and so I did. Every morning, I woke an hour earlier than usual and listened to the guided practices on a CD. Sitting quietly, gently resting my attention on the sensations of breathing, the mind naturally started to settle. There was a feeling of space. Tension in the body could release.

I found myself enjoying my walk to work. I was better able to concentrate during the day. I wasn’t consumed with thoughts about the future and the past in the same way I had been. I wasn’t lying awake in bed at 3am
ruminating about potential mistakes I might have made during the day or what my ‘to do’ list was for tomorrow. That course lasted six weeks and, by the end of it, I felt like a different person.

In the 13 years that followed, I came to see my morning meditation practice as a normal part of my daily routine, just the same as brushing my teeth. It was something I did every day in order to be calm and happy. It helped me perform better in work, and it also helped me immensely in my personal life.

Are you experienced?

Mindfulness is best understood as an experience. You can’t read a book and really know what it is, in the same way that you can’t read a recipe and know what the meal tastes like.

In very simple terms, the practice of mindfulness involves paying attention to exactly what is happening in the present moment, in a gentle and non-judgemental way.

As anyone who has practised for any length of time will tell you, although this sounds simple, it is far from easy. The mind is conditioned to be restless and is very easily distracted. We would much rather relive moments from the past or anticipate what may happen in the future, instead of bringing our full attention to the present moment. For many of us, this natural tendency means a lot of time spent ruminating, worrying, and planning – which can be a source of unhappiness and can exacerbate stress and anxiety. Mindfulness trains us to be present. It allows us to respond creatively to what happens, instead of being stuck in habitual and automatic patterns of behaviour that may not serve us.

Over the last 30 years, a significant amount of scientific research has
been carried out in relation to the benefits of mindfulness-based interventions. As with anything, the quality of research varies. Some studies are well designed and stand up to rigorous scrutiny. Others
are more questionable. One thing that is certain is that we have only begun to scratch the surface in terms of our scientific understanding of how mindfulness and other forms of meditation affect the body and

That said, there is a significant body of scientific evidence that has been
gathered over the last 30 years by some of the most well-respected academic institutions confirming the many benefits of mindfulness, such as:

  • Reduced stress and anxiety,
  • Improved ability to concentrate and focus,
  • Increased creativity,
  • Enhanced communication and
    interpersonal skills,
  • Increased resilience, and
  • Improved memory.

This year, a meta-analysis of 78 randomised controlled trials conducted between 1989 and 2019, with almost 6,000 participants, showed mindfulness-based interventions significantly improved attention, memory and processing speed.

Start me up

I would recommend finding an experienced and qualified teacher. It’s very different to learning about mindfulness from a book or an app. In Ireland, there is now a professional body for mindfulness teachers
(the Mindfulness Teachers’ Association of Ireland), so you can easily find a teacher who has been properly trained and who receives ongoing regular supervision.

Two courses stand out in terms of having a very extensive and well-documented evidence base:

  • Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction (MBSR), an eight-week course developed by Jon Kabat Zinn in the University of Massachusetts Medical School, and
  • Mindfulness-based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), an eight-week course developed by professors Williams, Segal and Teasdale at Oxford University.

For some, a shorter course might serve as an easier introduction. I have found that six-week courses (an hour a week) work well in law firms and, at the moment, online mindfulness courses are a good replacement for face-to-face ones.

“Mindful of the Dark” by Tony Bates

"Mindful of the Dark"

by Tony Bates

May 14th 2020

While leading a mindfulness practice recently, someone invaded the session with disturbing images. It was as dark as it gets. We all felt gutted.  Sleep didn’t come easy that night, and even when it did, it didn’t last.

Within a day or so, the floodwaters receded, the adrenaline settled down, for me. I was able to experience what had happened without feeling overwhelmed. I wondered about how mindfulness helps us to face the darkness.

When we see the way people exploit, hurt and destroy one another, it’s easy to lose faith in humanity. Experiencing the shadow side of human beings provokes strong reactions in us. We can feel sad, outraged, and frightened. We protest that “Life shouldn’t be this way”. We believe our anger is justified and feel strongly that we want to retaliate.

When we repeatedly experience shock, it’s easy to surrender to creeping despair. It’s tempting to shut our hearts down to protect ourselves from further heartbreak. We regard our innocence as naive, as we finally see the ‘truth’ about life. We can become cynical and depressed. Our cynicism becomes a compelling story we now tell ourselves and anyone who will listen. It gives us a false certainty about the future, which is much easier to live with. Knowing exactly what to expect of our fellow humans reduces the risk of disappointment. Despair becomes our identity and give us a sense of belonging among like-minded cynics.

Mindfulness offers another vision of the world. It tells us a different story. When we practice mindfulness we turn towards what is alive in the present moment and remain open to it.  However dark things appear, we choose to believe that the present moment holds potential and promise. We bring awareness and acceptance to whatever reactions arise in us, believing that a calm steady mind will lead to skilful compassionate action.

When we are hurt, our first task is to recognise it and take time to  steady ourselves before we do or say anything. Recognising our distress may be hard. It’s easy to dismiss our reaction as ‘weak’. But until we see what is happening we cannot take care of ourselves.

“When our mind is carried away by strong pain, it helps to go back to our relaxed in-breath and out-breath. Eventually, when our painful feeling comes back, we accept it as it is instead of letting it carry us away and make us more agitated. We don’t fight the painful feeling because we know it is part of us, and we don’t want to fight ourselves.” (Thich Nhat Hanh, 2010)

Mindfulness is risky, since it is a form of trust, trust in the unknown and the possible. It is an expression of hope that life is constantly changing and that we are changing, in small and important ways. Impermanence gives us grounds for hope. Nothing is fixed and stable. This world is in flux.

But what about shadow side of our world? Indeed, what about the shadow side of ourselves? Do we want to experience this or should we not even go there? Mindfulness invites us to accept and stay with what is difficult, however uncomfortable or painful that may be. In accepting the reality of darkness we do not justify it, but we know it is there.  Indignation can sometimes be a refusal to accept the way things are. The root meaning of indignation is ‘non-acceptance’. Instead of reacting to injustice and exploitation by saying “How can this happen?” mindfulness invites us to ask ourselves “Where do I stand in a world where this is happening, now?”

Meditation and contemplative traditions, both East and West, recognise that there is darkness in all of us.  This darkness can be an expression of deprivation and neglect, the absence of nurturing and compassion at critical points of our lives. When we manifest the darkness in us we strike out against the world from our hurt. When people inflict severe violence on others, they are often acting from a place of having been brutalised themselves. We practice mindfulness to strengthen our compassion and to heal what is broken. We believe that to be human is to hurt, but we also believe that to be alive is to live with the constant possibility of  transformation.

Thich Nhat Hahn has often spoken about the three resources within the Buddhist tradition that help us to cope with what is broken and dark in our lives. He called these the “Three Jewels” of his mindfulness tradition: The Buddha, the Dharma and the Sangha. I found each of these critical to recovery from the shock we all experienced.

The practice (the ‘Buddha’) helped to stabilise me, to step back rather than react impulsively. My mind didn’t become stuck in that moment, but was able to flow into the following days. I was then able to work with others to heal the hurt.

The teaching (the ‘Dharma’) of Thich Nhat Hanh (and others) changed my perspective. It allowed me to gradually put what happened into a much wider context. In many ways our privileged lives have cocooned us from the ugliness of our world. In our meditation session, the curtain was drawn back, and we caught a glimpse of the horror that is visited daily on thousands of children. Many other people are also suffering: refugees, people in direct provision, homeless families, people who have been traumatised by losing their livelihoods and their loved ones. Our eyes were opened in a way that caused us distress. But perhaps we see more clearly now what a fragile world we live in and how we need to up our game as practitioners. Then and only then can we reflect on our vision for how to live in the real world.

Finally, the compassion and tenderness I received from so many of you softened the blow of the trauma. Your reaching out to me and to others was a powerful  experience of ‘Sangha’.  Being part of this community protected me from locking down my heart and adding to the darkness in myself and the world.

Reference:  Thich Nhat Hanh (2010). Reconciliation: healing the inner child. Parallax Press (p. 36)

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Washing Hands

The Irish Times published a recipe by Fiona Hedigan for a natural disinfecting handwash which is kinder to hands than commercial ones which have drying alcohol in them. We are taking the liberty of sharing it with you here. Fiona says to make enough to carry around with you in a small pump action container (so you’re not spreading germs by dipping your fingers into a tub):

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MTAI 2020 AGM – Cancelled

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MTAI Retreat on Insight Dialogue

At the beginning of February, 28 members of MTAI attended a weekend retreat in Tullow, Co Carlow facilitated by Catherine Sutton.  The theme of the retreat was ‘Insight Dialogue’, which has its roots in the Buddha’s early teachings on the human experience and the practice of Vipassanā meditation, and was co-created by Gregory Kramer and Terri O’Fallon.  Over the weekend, Catherine paired participants up as she took them through a number of different practical exercises illustrating the six guidelines of Insight Dialogue.

  1. Pause – Stepping out of habitual thoughts and reactions into experience in the present moment
  2. Relax – Invitation to calm the body and mind
  3. Open – Extension of mindfulness from internal to include the external
  4. Attune to emergence – Entering the moment without an agenda
  5. Listen deeply – Listening mindfully, with an awareness that is relaxed and open
  6. Speak the truth – Discernment of what to say amid the universe of possibilities

People were nourished by the wonderful cooking of Dorene and the peaceful surroundings of Teach Bhríde in Tullow.

For more information on this type of training please contact Catherine Sutton on csutton@lismore.info


Julien Porzadny displays the MTAI poster at FÉILTE 2019, the Teaching Council’s annual Festival of Education in Learning and Teaching Excellence.  This event celebrates the wonderful work that teachers do every day in their classrooms and gives teachers the opportunity to collaborate and share this work with each other and with the wider public.  It was held in Galway on 27th / 28th September.

Bishop Cullinan, yoga and Zen

Sir, – Would the Bishop of Waterford and Lismore be willing to see what all the fuss is about by taking a mindfulness course himself so that he might be able to speak from his own experience and thus a more informed perspective? Mindfulness as it is taught in Irish schools has been adapted so that people of all religions and none can benefit from what it has to offer. There is a strong evidence base that many of us, even perhaps the bishop himself, can benefit from these trainings, in learning to contribute to the development of a less reactive, more compassionate and inclusive society. – Yours, etc,



The Mindfulness Teacher Association of Ireland,

Dublin 12.


Published in Irish Times on Monday 14th October, 2019

NEW: Day of Exploring Embodiment with Trish Haugh in Limerick

Don’t miss this Day of Exploring Embodiment with Trish Haugh  in Limerick.  Trish is a yoga teacher & psychotherapist with 35 years of working with movement and somatic attunement.  Trish’s work includes, training The Feldenkrais Method, Developmental Movement and linking our physiology and psychology from a Wincottian Attachment perspective.  Please have a look at her fascinating bio.  This  is an area that many of us do not feel so confident in and it will be a very worthwhile day in Limerick.

This day is open not just to mindfulness teachers but for anyone with an interest in the body-mind connection and  who wants to find ways to be  more at home.   Gentle movement  will be explored to restore this connection.

Places limited to 16, so early booking essential

Date:  Saturday 23rd May 2020

Location: Milford Care Centre, Castletroy, Co. Limerick

Time: 10:20am – 4.30pm

Cost: €40 for members and €30 for student members. €65 for non members.

MTAI at St John of God Wellbeing Fair

At a Health and Wellbeing fair for staff of St John of God Hospital (Dublin) in August, Mairead O’Keeffe (left) represented the MTAI.  Orlaith Donoghue (right), Head of Occupational Therapy, invited us to participate and she reported “ feedback was really positive and your input  was appreciated”.
If you know of any events that are coming up, do get in touch at hello@mtai.ie.
We will do our best to attend.

Dr Tony Bates becomes Patron of MTAI

Dr Tony Bates is the founder of Jigsaw, the National Agency for Youth Mental Health.  After a long career in clinical psychology, he co-edited ‘Vision for Change’, the mental health strategic review in 2006.  That work motivated him to create an NGO with a mission to provide mental health resources for young people. Jigsaw now has 13 centres across Ireland and has become a critical part of support services for young people in Ireland.

Tony is also credited as one of the people who brought the practice of mindfulness to Ireland following his own experience at the buddhist retreat centre in Plum Village, France with the spiritual leader Thich Nhat Hanh. He is the author of ‘Coming Through Depression, a Mindful Approach to Recovery’.

MTAI at GP Conference

We had a stand at the recent annual conference of the Irish College of General Practitioners on the 3rd/4th of May which was held in the Conference Centre.  Thanks to Ming Rawat a GP and a member of the MTAI for getting us a free stand.

Mairead O Keefe, Ming  and Josephine Lynch  manned the stall. There was some relief from GP’s as they understood there was now a professional body where they could refer patients to with some confidence.

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